Decoding Attachment Styles

Annalisa Bahadur takes attachment theory out of the abstract and into the lived reality of dating, friendships, and even workplace dynamics. Decoding Attachment Styles has 88 episodes and a near-perfect 4.9-star rating, built around two tools Bahadur returns to again and again: empathy to understand why you and the people you love act the way you do, and boundaries to stop the cycles of hurt. The format is what makes this show special. Most episodes feature Bahadur's solo breakdowns of the four attachment styles — secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant — but every Thursday, she brings in real listeners for pre-recorded coaching sessions. These are actual people sharing their relationship challenges and receiving live guidance, all recorded with consent using pseudonyms to protect privacy. Hearing someone else work through the exact pattern you've been stuck in hits differently than just hearing theory explained. Episodes tend to run long — sometimes over an hour — which gives Bahadur room to go deep rather than skimming the surface. She covers topics like what to look for in the first 90 days of dating, how attachment shows up in friendships, and the specific dynamics that play out between different attachment pairings. Her approach is compassionate but not wishy-washy; she'll point out where you might be contributing to your own pain while making it clear that awareness is the first step toward change. For anyone who learns best by hearing real examples rather than reading theory, this show delivers exactly that.