We're Having Gay Sex

Comedian Ashley Gavin ended a ten-year monogamous relationship and decided to document every awkward, thrilling, and confusing moment of her queer dating life on a podcast. What started as one woman's sexual re-education has grown into a 300-plus episode show where Ashley, alongside co-hosts Kate Sisk (the self-appointed "Cancel Coach") and Gara Lonning, interview people from across the gender and sexuality spectrum about their most intimate experiences. The conversations are explicit and specific in ways that most shows shy away from. Guests share real stories about first times, unusual kinks, relationship structures, and the mechanics of queer sex with a level of candor that's both funny and genuinely educational. Ashley has a comedian's instinct for knowing when to push a joke and when to let a moment breathe, so even the raunchiest episodes have unexpected emotional depth. One reviewer nailed it: "Fun and funny but also can get unexpectedly deep." With over 2,700 ratings and a 4.7-star average on Apple Podcasts, the show has clearly found its audience. New episodes drop weekly and typically run about an hour. There's also a Patreon tier for bonus content and ad-free listening. The title is attention-grabbing, obviously, but the show itself is smarter than its name suggests. It's a frank, hilarious, and surprisingly thoughtful exploration of what queer sexuality actually looks like in practice.